we're all grown up now... That, i could pretty much, be sure of, and confidently say...
all of us, cousins, are pretty much grown up by now.
attending marriages
(we'v done church weddings and then we'v done some tea ceremonies at hotels too~) and hearing the baby showers of our cousins hav been pretty normal n frequent along these few years too~
we try our best to attend to all of 'em.. me and sis.
be it wedding ceremonies, receptions... or even on a more sombre note, funerals.
yes, of course, aside from the merry occasions of having additional members to the family tree, there would be also, of course again, senior members leaving the clan.. you see, most of the uncles and aunts we have a generation above us, are by now, well over the frail age of 60 plus...
hmm, yes. we made our very best effort to attend to all... well, most if not all.. at least for those we deem close and dear to us, even though, close and dear does not necessarily mean frequent visits and contact. these, i would say, are the ties that bind...
back to the cousins...
the elder batch has all gotten married now. yes, with the final one of the elder batch being rudy chen. happily hitched with a hongkie and leaving for home, london, soon. i got the chance to mutter the salutation
'ah sow' when i greeted them new couple and received my 'single status' cousin angpow. yes, i dare say that would be the only time i'd hav the chance to greet some stranger as
ah sow. well, of course, stranger as she may be to me, she's now part of the family tree.
i cant say we cousins have a firm or in any way, affectionate grasp on each other. no, we're all somewhat strangers to each other too~ the only ties that bind, of corz, we cant erase that in any way either...
one thing for sure though, i'd be happy for All of how they all turned out to be now.. All meaning all the good and bad of it.
those married, and blessed with a brood, well i see on the primary that they're happy. well blessed with young and old in the household. i cant b bothered to scratch anymore beneath the surface... they still paint a happy picture to me.
those unmarried but in a
'its' complicated' mode, well, queer and boggling as it may be, still, i gotta giv it to them for their frankness and boldness in stepping up to it all.
those unmarried
on papers, i see them nonchalantly forging ahead making a name for themselves too. not at all maiden-in-distresses, these cousins of mine are ferocious and independently carving out their own fortune..
well, well,... what am i trying to say here then?
nothing concrete... just some gibberish recap after spending a full day at
holiday inn glenmarie, attending a first cousin's big day.. right from the 11am tea ceremony to the 8pm dinner reception.
yes, this one is Big. bigger than all the other cousin receptions.
rudy's the only male child of our generation. and his dad is the eldest of our uncles.
this one is a Big one where all aunts and cousins congregate. the one where i get to snoop at all their faces, and that of their spouses,
on and off paper... =}
and im not gonna start with all the
well-meaning queries on when i would be next.. .
i'd rather go swat a fly...
another itch scratched...